How should I respond to a girl staring directly into my eyes? Women have been doing this often since leaving high school. Sometimes I got scared, but most times I don't know how to respond. These women stare straight into my eyes, I stare back and usually look to the side first. What should I do? Are they testing my alpha-ness? I've missed opportunities with attractive women staring aggressively. Now younger women do it too, less intimidating. How to respond to strangers in dating scenarios?

First a frame change: "they are trying to test my alpha-ness." It's not a test. It's a taste. She is wondering what's your alphaness. She's curious. She wants to find out more. If you frame it as a "test" then you'll want to "perform and score", like she's your judge, placing her interests above yours, and your alphaness will be low. Her curiosity won't be satiated. In dating, reframe eye contact as mutual exploration, not judgment.

So she is staring at you with status curiosity, she's tasting you. What should you do? Look back at her with sexual curiosity. Taste her. Try to figure just by looking, how ready is she to connect intimately. Look for fertility cues, facial expression. Picture yourself with her. Is she passionate? What's her vibe? How compatible? Vibe her like she's a sexual flower. She'll know you're pinging back. This turns staring into flirty tension in relationships.

She´ll blush and look away, then look at you again, or she´ll keep staring with anticipation: Go and say hi. Or she will keep an analytical stare and break it—like she wants to be worked for: Hold it. She´ll come when you're with another girl. Or she will be disinterested, or you will, it doesnt matter. But if you liked her and you're curious, go and say hi, find out if she's cool. As simple as that for dating success.